How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

Let's get started. Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.

The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.

How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' 

The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me and made a date in the romantic manner.

Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.

A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. 

There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?

Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me. No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.

I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world! (Vlad Karl)

Cheap Wedding Favors

Depending on the size of your wedding the budget for your wedding favors can be very important. This is important because you may be planning on allowing for one favor for each guest or one for each couple. 

Whichever you decide to do, if you are having a large number of guests it may greatly impact the amount you can afford to spend on each favor. If you are only have a few guests you may be able to splurge on more expensive favors. However, if you are having a large number of guests on a limited budget you should consider searching for cheap wedding favor ideas.

Candles are one of the simplest ideas for cheap wedding favors. You can find simple candles available at very affordable prices. You might even consider purchasing personalized ribbons to tie pretty bows around the candles. These ribbons can usually be ordered and may include your names and the wedding date. 

This may sound like a pricey item but if you purchase these ribbons on a reel instead of precut it can be very affordable. A simple taper candle tied with your personalized ribbon can be placed at each place setting to create a really inexpensive wedding favor. 

Candy is another cheap wedding favor idea. You find a number of different ways to give out candy as an inexpensive wedding favor. One way to do this is to purchase a pretty fabric and some ribbon, cut the fabric into small squares, put a few small pieces of candy on each square and pull the corners together and tie with the ribbon. 

This is not only a very inexpensive wedding favor idea but it is also a very simple idea which can be assembled at the last minute. Another way to use candy as a wedding favor is to purchase small tins and fill them with the candy of your choice. You can purchase the candy in bulk to keep the price down and separate the candy into small portions for each guest. 

A final way to give candy as a wedding favor is to buy candy bars with personalized wrappers. The wrappers can include your name and wedding date and even a picture of the two of you. This can be very affordable especially if you are ordering in bulk and are only using one design for the wrappers.

Packets of flower or vegetable seed also make great wedding favors which are also very inexpensive. You can stack up a few different types of seeds and tie each with a ribbon to create an attractive presentation which will not blow your budget. 

Another way to give flower or vegetable seeds as a wedding favor is to put the seeds in a small pot. The pot does not have to be big enough to grow the flower or vegetable it is merely a symbolic gift so it can be rather small. The pot only needs to be large enough to hold the packets of seeds. This is important because small pots can be purchased rather inexpensively while larger pots will be significantly more expensive.

Another great idea for a wedding favor which is also very affordable is pen with the names of the bride and groom as well as the wedding date inscribed on the pen. These can often be purchased for very little and can be paired with stationary and a note encouraging your guests to stay in touch. 

This is such a great idea for a wedding favor because it is something your gests can really use plus by including some stationary and a note encouraging the guest to stay in touch you are letting them know you truly value their friendship. You might want to even consider including a self addressed stamped envelop with the favor so your guest will be more likely to follow your suggestion and send you at least a short note after the wedding.

Believe In My Love

Red roses

You are the witness of my love

It has been embedded in my soul

A MY love for you

I believe though not the first in your heart

But my love appropriate for you

Although I'm not a star in the sky

But rest assured, my love for the best for you

So pretty you in my eyes

Your face is like the moon that shines at night

Virgin hair is like unraveling

Your smile is like the rain which flushed dry soil

And thou art like the moon that illuminates the darkness

Believe In My Love

Trust me

I will always love you

Like a loving spoon fork

I will be faithful to you

Like toothpaste on a toothbrush is always faithful

And I will always sacrifice for you

Melted like wax that sacrifice in order to maintain that the fire stays lit.

O my love

You're the Goddess of night who always look after me at night

Love from you has been residing in my heart

Shadow always haunt my mind

Rest assured with this love

Because of the love we have like a flower

That will bloom and fragrant in time

By : Ichsan

Legenda Poppo dan Parakang di Tanah Sulawesi Selatan

Di bumi nusantara ini kalau orang berbicara tentang mistis, seakan tidak pernah habisnya, antara daerah satu dengan yang lainnya pasti punya banyak cerita tentang mistis. Di daerah Bali misalnya dikenal dengan nama Leak, Dalam mitologi Bali, Leak adalah penyihir jahat. Le artinya penyihir dan ak artinya jahat. Leak hanya bisa dilihat di malam hari oleh para dukun pemburu leak. Di siang hari ia tampak seperti manusia biasa, sedangkan pada malam hari ia berada di kuburan untuk mencari organ-organ dalam tubuh manusia yang digunakannya untuk membuat ramuan sihir. 

Ramuan sihir itu dapat mengubah bentuk leak menjadi seekor harimau, kera, babi atau menjadi seperti Rangda. Bila perlu ia juga dapat mengambil organ dari orang hidup. Demikian pula, di daerah Sulawesi Selatan ini ada yang dikenal dengan istilah manusia jadi-jadian pemakan rektum atau Poppo, yaitu manusia yang bisa terbang yang hanya disertai isi dalam perutnya saja. Berikut ini kita akan membahas cerita hantu penghisap darah "Poppo" serta manusia jadi-jadian "Parakang" yang berasal dari Sulawesi Selatan ini.

Poppo atau dalam beberapa panggilan disebut "Peppo" dalam kepercayaan tanah bugis adalah jenis siluman perempuan yang bisa terbang. Ada sebuah cerita tentang Poppo dianggap telah terjadi di sebuah desa. Suatu hari, Puang Imang dengan semua keluarganya meninggalkan rumahnya karena adanya pernikahan keluarga yang diadakan di tempat lain. Malam berikutnya, rumah Puang imam di datangi oleh Poppo, yang ingin mencuri. Setelah semua diambil Poppo tidak bisa keluar dari rumah Puang Imang. Dia mengatakan, menurut pengakuan Poppo, ia melihat dirinya dikelilingi oleh air laut seperti tidak memiliki pantai.

Setelah Puang Imang kembali, ia menemukan Poppo telah berubah menjadi seorang wanita cantik dengan rambut panjang berdiri telanjang di ruang tamu rumahnya. Ternyata Imang Puang rumah, sebelum ditinggalkan, telah disappo (dipagari) dengan baca - baca (mantra) yang menyebabkan Poppo tidak bisa keluar. Poppo kemudian diberi sepotong pakaian oleh istri Puang Imang dan membebaskannya. Tapi sebelum itu rambut panjang wanita itu dipotong hampir habis.

Poppo menurut kepercayaan orang Bugis selain dikenal sebagai pencuri juga suka menghisap darah, terutama wanita yang melahirkan. Poppo juga diyakini berada di kebun seperti jagung atau kebun di mana banyak buah-buahan. Sebuah Poppo berada di pohon yang menghasilkan buah yang kadang-kadang digunakan oleh orang-orang di musim mangga berbuah.

Tentang parakang, selain suka mengisap rektum orang sakit ada beberapa hal menarik lainnya. Jika wajah parakang sekarat kesakitan, ia akan mengulangi kata Lemba (Pindah) sampai ada seorang dari keluarganya yang mengatakan ya. Setelah itu, orang tersebut mengatakan ya, maka ia akan menjadi parakang berikutnya. 

Jika Anda menemukan parakang, misalnya dengan bentuk pohon pisang, orang dianjurkan untuk memukulnya sekali atau tiga kali saja. Jika satu pukulan akan membunuhnya dan dipercaya tiga kali akan membuatnya cacat. 

Poppo dan Parakang dalam kepercayaan orang Bugis adalah semacam hukuman yang dijatuhkan karena kesalahan atau pelanggaran sehubungan dengan nenek moyangnya telah belajar sihir hitam di masa lalu.

6 Weakness Jin and Devil We Know That Mandatory

Jin is one of the types of creatures that Allaah has certain physical properties, different from the kind of man or angels while the devil is to describe the nature of any creature of evil, rebellious, disobedient, like defected, like immoral, perverse rules, or something.

Although the jinn and devils have abilities that are not possessed by humans, but the Qur'an expressly says that the essence of demons and deception it is weak. Here are some of the kinds of flaws jin, including:

1. Cant beat the pious

Evidence that demons or jinns will not be able to defeat the pious are the words of the devil himself when in dialogue with God in Sura al-Hijr verse 39 -

"The devil said:" My Lord, because You have misled me, I will make them look good (immoral deeds) in the earth, and for sure I will put them all, except the servants you are sincere in their ". (Surat al-Hijr 15: 39-40).

From this verse it is understood that the demon that causes a person is able to master because of his sin. When a person is close to God, then the devil will run away and will never go near him let alone master it.

2. Satan scared and run by some of God's servants

If someone really holds true teachings of the religion and faith to stick with a tough, then the devil will be scared and run away. It is for example contained in the Umar bin Khatab himself. In a hadith narrated by Imam Turmu-Dzi Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to' Umar: "Satan is very scared by you, O Umar" (Narrated by Turmudzi).

Not only to Umar, but demons (disbelievers) will also be scared by people of faith who truly by faith. In al-wan Bidayah Nihayah, Ibn Kathir never cites the following hadith:

"Indeed, the believers will be able to control (beat) the ghost as any one of you who can control his camel while traveling" (Narrated by Ahmad).

In fact, if someone truly and continuously obedient and pious, he can bring qarinnya (penyertanya, because every man is certainly accompanied by demons (disbelievers) on the left and an angel on his right hand or often referred to qarin) to Islam. It is, as mentioned in a hadith narrated by Imam Muslim following:

"Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:" There is no one unless he is accompanied by a qarin (broadcaster) of the jinn and a qarin (comorbid) of angels ". The companions asked: "Are you also including O Messenger of Allah?" He replied: "Yes, including me, it's just that God helped me so genie was converted to Islam. He (jin earlier) never told me except for good "(Narrated by Muslim).

3. Jin submission and obedience to the Prophet Sulaiman

Among the miracles of Prophet Solomon was able to conquer jinns and demons so that all can work on command. This is as stated in the following verse of the Qur'an in the letter Shad verse 36-38:

"Then We subjected the wind that blows him well in wherever he pleases, and (We subjected to him anyway) devil-devil every builder and diver, and other devils are bound in shackles" (Surah Saad verses 36-38 ).

This miracle given to Prophet Sulayman as granting to his prayer that says:

"And give me the kingdom which is not given to someone after me" (Surah Saad 38:35).

Solomon's Prayer is why the Prophet is not so for the binding genie that comes with throwing darts into his face. In a hadith of Muslim said:

"From Abu Darda said:" One day the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam got up, suddenly we heard the Messenger of Allah said: "I seek refuge in Allah from you", then the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam also said: "Allah has melaknatmu" three times. Prophet then spread his hands as if he were receiving something. When the Prophet finished the prayer, we asked: "O Messenger of Allah, we heard you say something that we have never heard before. We also saw you open your hands ". He replied: "Just now the devil, the enemy of God came to bring fire arrows plugged in my face, and I said:" I seek refuge in Allah from you "three times, then I also said:" Allah has melaknatmu with perfect anathema "as three times. Then I intend to take it. If I do not remember the prayer of our brother, Solomon, of course I would tie it to become children's toys people of Medina "(Narrated by Muslim).

4. Jinn or devil can not resemble the Messenger

Satan and demons can not resemble the shape and face of the Prophet. Therefore, if someone dreamed of seeing the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, then he really has seen it. In the hadeeth it says:

"Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:" Whoever sees me dream, then he indeed has seen me, because Satan can not menyerupaiku "(Narrated by Muslim).

5. Jinns and demons can not pass certain limits in the sky

Although the jinn and demons has the advantage it can move quickly, but they will not be able to pass through the boundaries that have been defined which can not be passed except by the angels. Because if they venture through it, then they will perish and disintegrate. Hence, the genie can not know and steal information from the sky so that what he had whispered to artisans and shamans predictor is simply a lie. For more details of this can be seen in the letter al-Rahman verses 33-35).

6. Jin can not open the doors that have been closed with the name of Allah

In a hadith the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:" Close the doors, and call it the name of God (when shut), because the devil is not going to open the door that has been locked with the name of Allah. Close was also the place of drinking water (qirab in Arabic is the place to store drinking water made from animal skin) and your jars (for the present such as cabinets, sideboard, refrigerator and others) while the name of Allah, even if you only save something in them and (when going to sleep), turn off your lights "(Narrated by Muslim).

Subhanallah .....

Relief coming of God In Old Man

The following will present the experience of a story an old man who survived the flood thanks to the help of Allah SWT as the released FP Ust. Yusuf Mansyur below.

Once long ago there was a village at the foot of the mountain which was flooded. When the villagers were falling asleep, slowly the water began to inundate the region. Once you know the arrival of the flood, the residents began to hurry

evacuated to safer areas. Almost all the villagers fled, except for one elderly gentleman who choose to survive. The man then offered prayers to God Almighty:

"My Lord, You are the Mighty, the Forgiving and Thou Supreme Helper ....

Thy servant, O my Lord please help ....

Servant has forgiven those who hurt servant, therefore I beg your forgiveness, help these elderly servant .. "

Since the water began rising this old man climbed onto the roof of the house. Shortly thereafter came the man with a small boat, and intended to help the old man. But the old man refused the request. Soon came another rescue boat of rescue teams, the old man again refused. Until the helicopter finally came to save her, the old man still reject it because he believes God will come help him. The water is rising and more and soon the old man drowned.

The old man in the next encounter with the Lord and asked: "O my Lord, I have prayed for you to save me, but why do not you answer my prayers?" God replied: "I was touched to hear your prayers, therefore I send people in a canoe to help you, but you ignore. I submit the greater force with SAR boat, because you may want a safer, yet again you ignore. Last I send helicopter because you might be afraid of the boat, unfortunately you still ignore. Not that I did not help you, but you do not help yourself own "

Hopefully GOD always helps us, and we also know to help GOD. Hopefully we can harness this precious wisdom. Aamiin

Miracle of Love That Make You Want to Fall in Love

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal interest. In the context of the philosophy of love is a good trait that inherits all the kindness, compassion and affection. Other opinion, love is an action / active activity by humans against other objects, such as self-sacrifice, empathy, concern, compassion, help, obey the word, follow, obedient, and willing to do whatever the desired object.

Miracle of love. Doc. Shutterstock

It's just that the process goes smoothly love is often not granted. but did you know that true love, will bring you to the various facts that heartwarming?

Those who have met her true love, must have felt some interesting experiences and sometimes difficult to express in words. Maybe it is because they have found the magic of love.

If you feel some of the following, you may also be one of the people who experience it.

Sensing Hugs Can Heal

Hug it sometimes can cure the pain. You do not need drugs, just need a comfortable hug that warms the heart. And embrace it from the people you care about.

Arguably, the warmest coat in the world is a hug. If the world is so cold for your partner, wear a coat and wrap your arms on them.

Attention feel Happy Makes Sense

So far, you have always been an independent figure, but now there is someone who always pay attention to your health and safety. Sometimes even without the need to explain, they show the actions and views of caring and affection on you. That's when your heart melt even sometimes want to cry and hug their emotion.

There are several types of simple attention easily make miss. One of them through food. Do not underestimate, because vegetable ve, President Sukarno fell in love with Hartini know.

Houses Phenomenon Which Will Not Run

There are times when love have ups and downs and as there is no possibility to return. But apparently, in the end you back to the figure ever fill the space of your heart as to which will not mate. Once your relationship and her ups and downs, it was just him you will be docked.

Funny indeed, but we never know who we really are dating. We may hate, but the heart can not be fooled. Never easy to say hate, maybe you 'll come back with them.

The phenomenon of 'Unity'

One phenomenon that could happen is where the couple was one heart. When one is in danger, the other can feel anxious and worried. Or even when one is sick, the others are equally sick. This phenomenon usually occurs because there is a chemistry between couples or also a sense of mutual understanding after so long interconnected.

Love in the real world is not like Romeo and Juliet is as lively as dead. But when love is already bind our hearts, there is often a phenomenon of 'accord' that can make us blush in shame.

Ciri-Ciri Istri Shalihah Menurut Islam

Istri shalihah ialah seorang istri yang berpegang teguh dengan hukum agama dan taat kepada Rasulullah SAW, senantiasa mendekatkan diri kepada Allah serta senantiasa memohon keampunan demi mencari keridhaan Allah SWT.

Istri Shalihah akan senantiasa sabar apabila Suami ditimpa masalah baik dari segi keuangan, kesehatan, maupun masalah pelik lainnya, semuanya dilakukan dengan ridha tanpa meminta balasan atau mengungkit segala pengorbanannya kepada Suami selama ini, justru dia sadar bahwa semua itu adalah tanggung jawabnya.

Nabi SAW ada bersabda: "Bila seorang wanita menjaga shalat lima waktu, berpuasa sebulan (Ramadhan), menjaga kemaluannya dan taat kepada suaminya, maka ketika berada di akhirat dikatakan kepadanya: Masuklah kamu ke dalam surga dari pintu mana saja yang engkau sukai" . (Riwayat Ahmad 1/191, Shahihul Jami 'no. 660, 661)

Berdasarkan dalil-dalil tersebut, dapat kita simpulkan bahwa sifat istri yang shalihah adalah sebagai berikut:

1. Ketika dipandang, dia akan membuat suami bahagia, nyaman dan menentramkan jiwa. Dari dandanannya menarik maupun wajahnya yang selalu ceria..

2. Ketika suami memerintahkannya pada suatu hal yang diperbolehkan Agama, maka dia mentaatinya.

3. Ketika suami pergi dan dia tidak bersamanya, maka dia akan menjaga dirinya untuk sang suami dan juga menjaga apa-apa yang suami miliki; harta, anak, dan lain-lain.

خير النِّسَاء امْرَأَة نظرت إِلَيْهَا سرتك وَإِذا أَمَرتهَا أَطَاعَتك وَإِذا غبت عَنْهَا حفظتك فِي نَفسهَا وَمَالك

Artinya : "Sebaik-baik wanita (istri) adalah yang ketika engkau memandangnya akan membuatmu bahagia. dan jika diperintah, dia akan mentaatimu. dan jika engkau tidak bersamanya (kamu sedang pergi) maka dia akan menjagamu dalam dirinya dan menjaga apa-apa yang engkau miliki." (HR. An Nasa’i, Abu Daud, Ahmad dan dihasanakan oleh Albani dalam silsilah 4/ 453)

• Jika seorang istri bisa menjaga 3 hal tersebut maka..Seorang suami akan mendapatkan ketenangan hati dan fikiran ketika pergi bekerja.
• Hasrat untuk lirak lirik akan berkurang bahkan mungkin jadi tiada.
• Ada rasa kangen setiap saat untuk pulang kerumah menemui istrinya yang tercinta.
• Kata kata manis dan cinta akan gampang keluar dari lisan suami
• Masalah rumah tangga akan berkurang mungkin hampir tiada
• Anak anak akan meniru gaya ibunya yang sholihah dalam berbakti kepada orangtuanya

Catatan: Bagi setiap pasutri hendaknya lebih cenderung mengkoreksi dari masing masing katimbang mengkoreksi pasangannya.. Karena dengan ini tidak akan terjadi saling tuding dalam perbaikan diri.

Akhir kata:

Semoga bahtera rumah tangga akan langgeng dengan NAHKODA seorang laki laki yang mampu mengarahkan perahunya menuju ridho Allah Ta'ala.

آمــين اَللّهُمَّ آمــين

Penulis : Ust. Abu Riyald

Keutamaan Menyantuni Anak Yatim

Dari Sahl bin Sa’ad radhiallahu ‘anhu dia berkata: Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,

« أَنَا وَكَافِلُ الْيَتِيمِ فِى الْجَنَّةِ هكَذَا » وأشار بالسبابة والوسطى وفرج بينهما شيئاً

“Aku dan orang yang menanggung anak yatim (kedudukannya) di surga seperti ini”, kemudian beliau shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam mengisyaratkan jari telunjuk dan jari tengah beliau shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, serta agak merenggangkan keduanya[1].

Hadits yang agung ini menunjukkan besarnya keutamaan dan pahala orang yang meyantuni anak yatim, sehingga imam Bukhari mencantumkan hadits ini dalam bab: keutamaan orang yang mengasuh anak yatim.

Beberapa faidah penting yang terkandung dalam hadits ini:

Makna hadits ini: orang yang menyantuni anak yatim di dunia akan menempati kedudukan yang tinggi di surga dekat dengan kedudukan Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam[2].

Arti “menanggung anak yatim” adalah mengurusi dan memperhatikan semua keperluan hidupnya, seperti nafkah (makan dan minum), pakaian, mengasuh dan mendidiknya dengan pendidikan Islam yang benar[3].

Yang dimaksud dengan anak yatim adalah seorang anak yang ditinggal oleh ayahnya sebelum anak itu mencapai usia dewasa[4].

Keutamaan dalam hadits ini belaku bagi orang yang meyantuni anak yatim dari harta orang itu sendiri atau harta anak yatim tersebut jika orang itu benar-benar yang mendapat kepercayaan untuk itu[5].

Demikian pula, keutamaan ini berlaku bagi orang yang meyantuni anak yatim yang punya hubungan keluarga dengannya atau anak yatim yang sama sekali tidak punya hubungan keluarga dengannya[6].

Ada beberapa hal yang harus diperhatikan sehubungan dengan mengasuh anak yatim, yang ini sering terjadi dalam kasus “anak angkat”, karena ketidakpahaman sebagian dari kaum muslimin terhadap hukum-hukum dalam syariat Islam, di antaranya:

1. Larangan menisbatkan anak angkat/anak asuh kepada selain ayah kandungnya, berdasarkan firman Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala:

{ادْعُوهُمْ لِآَبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ لَمْ تَعْلَمُوا آَبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ}

“Panggillah mereka (anak-anak angkat itu) dengan (memakai) nama bapak-bapak (kandung) mereka; itulah yang lebih adil di sisi Allah, dan jika kamu tidak mengetahui bapak-bapak mereka, maka (panggilah mereka sebagai) saudara-saudaramu seagama dan maula-maulamu” (QS al-Ahzaab: 5).

2. Anak angkat/anak asuh tidak berhak mendapatkan warisan dari orang tua yang mengasuhnya, berbeda dengan kebiasaan di zaman Jahiliyah yang menganggap anak angkat seperti anak kandung yang berhak mendapatkan warisan ketika orang tua angkatnya meninggal dunia[7].

3. Anak angkat/anak asuh bukanlah mahram[8], sehingga wajib bagi orang tua yang mengasuhnya maupun anak-anak kandung mereka untuk memakai hijab yang menutupi aurat di depan anak tersebut, sebagaimana ketika mereka di depan orang lain yang bukan mahram, berbeda dengan kebiasaan di masa Jahiliyah.

وصلى الله وسلم وبارك على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه أجمعين، وآخر دعوانا أن الحمد لله رب العالمين

Penulis: Ustadz Abdullah bin Taslim al-Buthoni, MA

Artikel Muslim.Or.Id

[1] HSR al-Bukhari (no. 4998 dan 5659).

[2] Lihat kitab “’Aunul Ma’buud” (14/41) dan “Tuhfatul ahwadzi” (6/39).

[3] Lihat kitab “Syarhu shahiihi Muslim” (18/113).

[4] Lihat kitab “an-Nihaayah fi gariibil hadiitsi wal atsar” (5/689).

[5] Lihat kitab “Syarhu shahiihi Muslim” (18/113) dan “Faidhul Qadiir” (3/49).

[6] Ibid.

[7] Sebagaimana dalam HSR al-Bukhari (no. 3778), lihat juga kitab “Tafsir al-Qurthubi” (14/119).

[8] Mahram adalah orang yang tidak halal untuk dinikahi selamanya dengan sebab yang mubah (diperbolehkan dalam agama). Lihat kitab “Fathul Baari” (4/77).

1x Meninggalkan Shalat = 28.800.000 Tahun Neraka

Dalam suatu hadits dikatakan: Rasulullah saw. bersabda” Barang siapa meninggalkan sholat hingga lewat waktunya, lalu ia mengqadhanya, maka ia akan disiksa di neraka selama satu huqub. Satu huqup sama dengan delapan puluh tahun dan satu tahun terdiri dari 360 hari, dan ukuran sehari (di akhirat) adalah seribu tahun (di dunia) (dari hitungan ini satu huqup sama dengan 28.800.000 tahun.” (Majaalisil-abraar)

Dari segi bahasa, huqub artinya waktu yang sangat panjang. Tetapi menurut kebanyakan hadits, huqub artinya masa di atas delapan puluh tahun. Demikian perhitungan yang di tulis dalam Durrul-Mantsur berdasarkan beberapa riwayat. Ali r.a. pernah bertanya kepada Hilal Hijri rah.a., “Berapa lamakah satu huqub itu?”Hilal Hijri rah.. menjawab, “satu huqub adalah delapan puluh tahun, dan setahun itu dua belas bulan, dan setiap bulannya terdiri dari tiga puluh hari, dan setiap harinya sama dengan seribu tahun.”

Abdullah bin Mas’ud r.a meriwayatkan dengan shahih bahwa satu huqub adalah delapan puluh tahun. Dari Abu Hurairah r.a., Rasulullah saw bersabda, “satu huqup adalah delapan puluh tahun, dan satu tahun terdiri dari 360 hari, dan satu hari di akhirat sama dengan seribu tahun perhitungan di dunia ini.” Juga diriwayatkan oleh Abdullah bin Uma r.huma, ia berkata, “Hendaknya seseorang tidak merasa tenang bahwa dengan adanya iman, suatu saat pasti keluar dari neraka. Memang, setelah di bakar 28.800.000 tahun ia akan keluar, dengan catatan, tidak ada hal lain yang membuatnya tinggal lebih lama di neraka. Masih banyak lagi tentang riwayat satu huqub tesebut. Mungkin bergantung pada keadaan orangnya, bisa berkurang atau bertambah.”

Dalam Qurratul-’Uyuun, Abu Laits Samarqandi rah.a menyebutkan sebuh hadits Nabi saw. bahwa barang siapa sengaja meninggalkan sholat fardhu, walaupun hanya satu sholat, maka akan tertulis namanya di pintu neraka yang harus ia masuki. Dari Ibnu Abbas r.huma, Rasulullah pernah berdo’a, “Ya Allah, jangan jadikan salah seorang di antara kami termasuk dalam golongan orang-orang yang sengsara dan celaka.” Lalu beliau bertanya, “Tahukah kamu, siapakah orang yang sengsara dan celaka itu?” Jawab para sahabat r.hum, “Engkau lebih tahu Yaa Rasulullah.” sabda beliau,” orang yang sengsara ialah orang yang meninggalkan sholatnya. Di dalam Islam, mereka tidak akan mendapatkan apa pun.”

Disebutkan dalam hadits yang lain, “Barang siapa meninggalkan sholat tanpa alasan syar’i, maka pada Hari kiamat Allah tidak akan mempedulikannya, bahkan Allah akan menyiksanya dengan adzab yang sangat pedih.”

Hadits lainnya juga menyebutkan.” Ada sepuluh orang yang akan di siksa sangat keras, di antaranya adalah orang yang meninggalkan sholat. Tangan mereka akan di belenggu, mulut mereka dikunci, dan para malaikat terus-menerus memukuli mereka dari depan dan dari belakang. Surga berkata kepada mereka, ‘Kamu tidak memiliki hubungan apapun denganku. Aku bukan untuk orang sepertimu dan kamu bukan untukku. ’Jahannam berkata, ‘Mari, kemari, mendekatlah kepadaku, kamu untukku, dan aku untukmu.’ Dalam hadits lain diriwayatkan bahwa di neraka terdapat suatu lembah yang bernama Lam-lam. Didalamnya ada seekor ular yang sangat besar, sebesar leher unta, dan panjangnya seperti sebulan perjalanan. Ular itu diciptakan untuk menyiksa orang-orang yang meninggalkan sholat. Hadits lain menyebutkan bahwa di neraka ada sebuah lembah bernama, Jubbul-Hazan di dalamnya ada rumah-rumah kalajengking. Seekor kalajengking lebih besar daripada keledai. Dan kalajengking itu di ciptakan untuk menyiksa orang-orang yang meninggalkan sholat. Memang, Allah swt. dengan mudah akan mengampuni dosa hamba-nya, tetapi siapakah yang dapat menjamin bahwa Allah swt. akan mengampuni kita??

Di dalam Az-Zawajir, Inbu Hajar rah.a menulis, ” Seorang wanita meninggal dunia, lalu saudara laki-lakinya ikut dalam pemakamannya. Ketika penguburan, dompetnya terjatuh dan masuk ke dalam liang kubur. Saat itu ia tidak memperhatikannya, tetapi kemudian ia teringat. Diam-diam, ia pergi ke kubur saudara perempuannya itu untuk mengambil dompetnya. Baru saja kubur itu di buka, terlihat kobaran api memenuhi kubur itu. Lalu ia mengadukan kepada ibunya sambil menangis dan meminta penjelasan mengenai kejadian tersebut, “Mengapa hal itu terjadi?” Jawab ibunya, “Saudara perempuanmu selalu malas mengerjakan sholat dan selalu mengqadha sholatnya.

” Semoga Allah swt. menjaga kita dari perbuatan tersebut. Amiiiin.

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Asal Muasal Api Dalam Konteks Islam

Ketika Nabi Adam As. diturunkan ke bumi, beliau tidak lagi memperoleh makanan secara mudah seperti di surga. Beliau harus bekerja keras untuk memperoleh buah-buahan atau daging untuk dimakan.

Ketika beliau memperoleh binatang buruan dan menyembelihnya, ternyata tidak bisa langsung dimakan begitu saja karena masih mentah dan tentunya tidak enak. Karena itu beliau berdoa kepada Allah agar diturunkan api untuk memasak. Maka Allah Swt. mengutus Malaikat Jibril meminta sedikit api kepada Malaikat Malik di neraka untuk keperluan Nabi Adam tersebut.

Malaikat Malik berkata: “Wahai Jibril, berapa banyak engkau menginginkan api?”

Malaikat Jibril berkata: “Aku menginginkan api neraka itu seukuran buah kurma.”

Malaikat Malik berkata: “Jika aku memberikan api neraka itu seukuran buah kurma, maka tujuh langit dan seluruh bumi akan hancur meleleh karena panasnya!”

Malaikat Jibril berkata: “Kalau begitu berikan saja kepadaku separuh buah kurma saja.”

Malaikat Malik berkata lagi: “Jika aku memberikan seperti apa yang engkau inginkan, maka langit tidak akan menurunkan air hujan setetes pun, dan semua air di bumi akan mengering sehingga tidak ada satupun tumbuhan yang hidup!”

Malaikat Jibril jadi kebingungan, sebanyak apa api neraka yang aman untuk kehidupan di bumi? Karena itu ia berdoa: “Ya Allah, sebanyak apa api neraka yang harus aku ambil untuk kebutuhan Adam di bumi?”

Allah Swt. berfirman: “Ambilkan api dari neraka sebesar zarrah (satuan terkecil, atom).”

Maka Malaikat Jibril meminta api neraka kepada Malaikat Malik sebesar zarrah dan membawanya ke bumi. Tetapi setibanya di bumi, Jibril merasakan api yang sebesar zarrah itu masih terlalu panas, maka beliau mencelupkan (membasuhnya) sebanyak tujuh puluh kali ke dalam tujuh puluh sungai yang berbeda. Baru setelah itu beliau membawanya kepada Nabi Adam dan meletakkannya di atas gunung yang tinggi.

Tetapi begitu api tersebut diletakkan, gunung tersebut hancur berantakan. Tanah, batuan, besi dan semua saja yang ada di sekitar api itu menjadi bara yang sangat panas, dan mengeluarkan asap. Bahkan api yang sebesar zarrah itu terus masuk menembus bumi, dan hal itu membuat Malaikat Jibril khawatir. Karena itu ia segera mengambil api tersebut dan membawanya kembali ke neraka.

Asal muasal api

Bara terbakar yang ditinggalkan itulah yang sampai sekarang ini menjadi sumber api dunia, termasuk yang menjadi magma-magma di semua gunung berapi di bumi ini. Tidak bisa dibayangkan bagaimana panasnya api neraka tersebut. Kalau bara api dunia itu umumnya berwarna merah, maka bara api neraka itu berwarna hitam kelam, seperti hitamnya gelap malam.

Nabi Saw. pernah menanyakan tentang keadaan api neraka itu, maka Malaikat Jibril berkata: “Sesungguhnya Allah Swt. menciptakan neraka, lalu menyalakan api neraka itu selama seribu tahun sehingga (baranya) berwarna merah. Kemudian (Allah) menyalakannya (menambah panasnya) selama seribu tahun lagi sehingga (baranya) berwarna putih, dan (Dia) menyalakannya (menambah panasnya) selama seribu tahun lagi sehingga (baranya) berwarna hitam. Maka neraka itu hitam kelam seperti hitamnya malam yang sangat gelap pekat, tidak pernah tenang kobaran apinya dan tidak pernah padam (berkurang) bara apinya.”

Sumber : Disadur dari Kisah al-Habib Ubaidillah bin Idrus al-Habsyi Surabaya (Alumnus Ribath Darul Musthafa Yaman)

Poppo and Parakang Legend

Poppo

Speaking about the mystical, not the role of a local resident. Similarly, in the area that we nefgeri these kinds of stories spread by word of mouth. The following will serve blood-sucking ghost story "Poppo" as well as human imitation "Parakang" originating from South Sulawesi.

Poppo 'or some call Peppo' according to the man in the land trust is a type of stealth Bugis women who can fly. There is a story about Poppo is supposed to have occurred in a village. One day, Puang Imang with all his family to leave his home because of a family wedding held in other areas. The next night, the house entered by Poppo Puang Imang that, once again, it seems like a steal. Once items are taken away would have been wrapped with a sarong, Poppo it can not get out of the house Puang Imang. He said, according to the confession Poppo, he saw himself surrounded by water-like sea that has no shore.

After Puang Imang back, he finds Poppo has been transformed into a beautiful woman with long hair standing naked in the living room of his house. Turns Imang Puang home, before being abandoned, have disappo (fenced) with read - read (mantras) that Poppo was not getting out. Poppo was then given a piece of clothing by Puang Imang wife and was let go. But before to make her wary, long hair was cut nearly exhausted .

Poppo according to the beliefs of the Bugis in addition known as the phantom thief also likes to suck blood, especially women who are giving birth. Poppo also believed to be in the garden like corn or gardens where a lot of fruits. A Poppo was in a tree that bears fruit that is sometimes used by people (bold) in the mango fruiting season. Poppo is ' settled ' in the Mango Tree branches will drop ripe mango fruit on request of the owner.

About parakang, in addition to love sucking rectum sick people there are some other interesting things. If a face parakang dying agony, he would repeat the word Tarus Dales (moved) until no one from his family who said yes. After that, the person said yes it would be next parakang. If you find parakang, for example with a form of banana trees, people are encouraged to hit him once or three times only. If one hit will kill him and trusted three times will make it defective. That's why my neighbor women who moved were considered parakang because walking like people with knee pain. According to the people, one night, she was caught and beaten with goat tangible pieces of wood dilututnya three times. Since then he walks in a strange way. Two of the ghost, ghost parakang and Poppo is the most popular in our hometown. So popular when I was a kid Guidelines appreciation and practice of Pancasila or P4 we termed a Poppo, Parakang Pakkanre Pello (Poppo, Parakang eaters rectum).

Poppo and Parakang the Buginese people believe is some sort of punishment handed down due to errors or violations in connection with his ancestors had learned black magic in the past. (sangbaco.com)

10 Facts You Did not Cause Lucky

If you normally feel as disadvantaged people living in the world, which could actually be part of it all your own that created it. Let's look at the causes of shit below, if it turns out you made ​​mistakes that no one under it, then it should of thought and belief have to be changed again.

1. Excessive worry

The more you worry, the less confidence that everything will go well. How can you expect a place in life if you do not have the confidence or self-esteem? Let it all flow.

2. Have No Sense of humor

If you are the type of people who respond to all matters seriously, then you go in the first list. Begin to learn to laugh. Laughter is the most potent drug in every way. If you can not make the problems that you face as a joke, just the opposite complained at length about the issue, it could be a problem is actually not as bad as you think . Once you prove it, then the whole life of all problems are not as bad as you think .

3. Not Happy With Yourself While Watching in Glass

Why is that? With standard who you are comparing yourself? Your own or someone else? Actually, you can find something in yourself that makes you happy, or make changes. Do both if you want. No one in this world can stop you from thinking that you are interesting.

4. Blaming the Other

Why are you so easily broken? Is not to say someone else is innocent, but when referring to it, you end up changing your own money. Once again, quit feeling sorry for yourself and stop complaining. If the business you do not bring the expected results, then do different things. So different people once in a while, it could be a good thing for your self. Remember, start by stop complaining, and make peace with any situation you face.

5. Have No Expectations Or Stuck

No one can make you feel better than your own self. You can not expect the world to change for you before you change yourself.

6. More From The ability to act

This action makes you so dull, and in particular does not mean "All work and no play".

7. Blame God

Sometimes you think how God is not fair on you. Maybe you should start now you learned to praise and then good things will come replace the bad things. You can start by thanking wake up fine in the morning.

8. Others With Luck envy

Whenever you hear someone else gets your luck always exclaim, " That man made ​​me very upset!' Maybe if you be happy with the fortune of others, then the same luck can rub off on you.

9. Continuous complain

Actually, complaining about one thing instead will be many other things that you are complaining about. And that surely everyone was annoyed with people who like to complain.

10. Not Appreciate The Things That You Have Both

For example, you do not ever be grateful if you could still get up this morning and see the sunshine? Is that correct? From now on, you can count the good you have in the life of the little things that you have.

What do you think? If the right of the top 10 things in there yourself. Trying to do the change, and misfortunes that would just stay the shadows .

Manfaat Mandi Sebelum Subuh Dalam Ajaran Islam

Manfaat Mandi Sebelum Subuh dalam Ajaran Islam dan Amalan lain Nabi Muhammad SAW telah kita ketahui, bahwa sesungguhnya banyak riwayat hadits yang menyebutkan bahwa mandi sebelum subuh bisa menyehatkan badan. Adalah Islam dengan Al Qur'an dan sunnah Rasul yang mengajarkan kepada kita kiat-kiat mandi sebelum matahari terbit.

Mari Simak Manfaat mandi sebelum subuh dan apa saja Amalan lain Nabi Muhammad SAW, simak berikut ini :

1. Waktu shalat subuh disunatkan kita bertafakur (yaitu sujud sekurang kurangnya satu menit setelah membaca doa). Kita akan terhindar dari sakit kepala atau migrain. Ini terbukti oleh ilmuwan yang meneliti kenapa dalam sehari perlu kita sujud. Para ilmuwan telah menemukan beberapa milimeter ruang udara dalam saluran darah di kepala yang tidak dipenuhi darah. Dengan bersujud maka darah akan mengalir ke ruang tersebut.

2. Mandi pagi sebelum subuh atau paling tidak sejam sebelum matahari naik. Air dingin yang meresap ke dalam badan bisa mengurangi lemak mengumpul. Kita bisa saksikan orang mengamal mandi pagi kebanyakan badan tak gemuk.

3. Rasulullah mengamalkan minum segelas air dingin (bukan air es) setiap pagi. Mujarabnya Insya Allah jauh dari penyakit (tidak gampang kena sakit).

4. Dalam kitab ini ada melarang kita makan makanan darat bercampur dengan makanan laut. Nabi pernah mencegah kita makan ikan bersama ayam. di khawatirkan akan cepat mendapat penyakit. Ini terbukti oleh ilmuwan yang menemukan bahwa dalam daging ayam mengandung ion + ve sedangkan dalam ikan mengandung ion-ve, jika dalam ayam bercampur dengan ikan maka terjadi reaksi biokimia yang terhasil yang bisa merusak usus kita.

5. Makanlah dengan menggunakan tangan kanan Nabi juga mengajarkan kita makan dengan tangan kanan dan bila habis harus menjilat jari. Begitu juga ilmuwan telah menemukan bahwa enzyme banyak terkandung di celah jari, yaitu 10 kali ganda terdapat dalam air liur. 

Subhanallah...

Semoga kita termasuk umat yang dirindukan Rasulullah SAW yang selalu tetap istiqamah mengikuti dan mengamalkan Sunnah - Sunnah Beliau. Aamiin.

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